The worst F-word so far & how to it can HELP you GROW!
Keep reading to the end – this is of UTMOST IMPORTANCE for SUCCESS on ALL LEVELS!!
is so much closer than you think!
The number one reason holding us back from being uber-successful is FEAR! We all do it on different levels. Yet, once we feel the fear, it’s because we are so damn close to breaking through. Most of us don’t realise this & then either stop, just keep doing what we’re doing or even turn around and walk away.
Here’s how you can change it. First and foremost I want you to know that you can have it all!!
Secondly I would like to share the explanation most personal-development-gurus will teach you: FEAR is nothing else but “False Expectations Appearing Real”.
This is so important to understand! What ever you are afraid of, it is only in your head! Here are a few examples of common fears:
I don’t know enough.
I’m not good enough.
I can’t do this.
What if I fail?
Now, let’s look at these a bit closer – and then I’ll give you my very own “translation of fear”!
A lot of people talk about “Fear of Public Speaking”, but when you look into it, it’s actually the Fear of being judged by others!”. Hardly any Business Person I know is scared of “speaking” per se. But the fact of speaking in public or to an audience brings on the Fear of being judged!
Focus on the things you know & what you are here to share. Make it about the benefits others can get from listening to you. 99% in the audience come to hear what can benefit them, not to judge you!
I don’t know enough:
Who is guilty of this one? Wow… I can see many hands go up! Here’s the thing: you always know enough to get started. And the rest you can learn along the way! The key here is: trust what you already know & never stop learning!!
The evil twin-brother of the “I don’t know enough” is the “I know it all” – neither of them are right. Ever. Both of them hold you back from learning!!
I’m not good enough:
According to who? Again: you are already great at what you’re doing, otherwise you would’ve never opened your business in the first place! I will repeat myself here: just never stop learning! Block some “education-time” out in your diary. I have stacks of books & e-courses that I really want to read and watch through. My education blocks are Tue & Thu afternoons, 3 hours each. And I’m ticking off book after book, course after course – and I keep adding more to the list! I love it 🙂
So, acknowledge the emotion and then write a list of things you are really good at! (And a list of things you want to learn!)
I can’t do this:
Yeah, right. I hear this way too often – but what exactly can’t you do? Be specific! Mostly this is an overall “blocking-emotion”. A strong sign of “giving up”. And this might just be temporarily. But look into it: what exactly is it that you can’t do? And then put a magnifying glass over it. Really? You can’t do it? I think you can!
Now focus on the how – as soon as you realise that “if” is not an option, just think about how you can do it & soon you will get a lot of answers & creative ideas 🙂
What if I fail?
Good one! No, I’m not being sarcastic – this is a really good question! I want you to play this “what if scenario”. What is the worst thing that can happen?
And then ask yourself this: “What if I don’t? What if I succeed?” And be even more specific with the answers to those questions! Paint yourself a very clear picture of your success! (Remember Thomas Edison? â€œI have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.â€ Now, that is inspiration!!)
To round it all up, here’s my translation for FEAR:
Make it your Friend! It is trying to teach you something about yourself!
What Emotions are coming up? They are a blessing in disguise! Awareness: as soon as you are aware of what’s actually going on underneath, it can’t block you any more! Redirect your Focus & Energy! As soon as I’m aware of where my Fear comes from, I Replace it with Action-steps towards my goal!
An absolute eye-opener that I can strongly recommend to anybody who wants to step up BIG time is “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks. Great read – you will learn a whole lot about your own Fears & Self Sabotaging your Success…
Here’s to success – the journey is awesome!
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Marie Alessi Director of Muse Coaching, Expert in transforming lives and businesses, specialising in the Beauty Industry.
With over 15 years combined experience in Marketing and Mentoring, Marie will help you see things you canâ€™t see. She gives you the outside perspective that you leave behind when you get emerged in your Salon.
Marie focuses all her attention on Salon and Day Spa Owners. She believes to be successful, you have to work equally on personal & business growth.